What You Should Know, Before Dumping Your Guy
There’s no point of sticking around a man who isn’t man enough!
Bored sick of that guy you’ve been seeing? And the worst part, you don’t even know why you’re still together in the first place? Here are a few things you should know before going kaboosh on your soon-to-be-ex!
You want to break the deal off?
Are you sure you do want to break up in the first place? Or are you still unsure? Make up your mind first.
Are you picking the right time?
Look, you may want to break up with him. You really don’t want to mess his life, do you? Then, split up when all other aspects of his life are fine. If he’s in a hospital bed with a fractured rib, that may not be the best time for the revelation.
Do you know where to break up?
When you want to break up, there are bound to be loose emotions of the worst kind. I mean crying. So break up in private, unless your guy is an abusive one. Never dump someone in front of their family or friends.
Do You Feel Guilty?
If he gets weepy on you and starts accusing you or makes you feel guilty, let it go. He has his own reasons, and so have you. You know he’s not the one you intend to spend your life with, and if he’s accusing you, he thinks you’re flawed too. So let guilt never stop you in the middle. Surprisingly, it always does!
Do you explain yourself?
Always explain yourself. An unexpected break-up with no valid reasons will always haunt him. He may just want to know where he went wrong. Give the man his peace. Somehow, most women, never complain.
Should you avoid your guy?
Some women think this is the best way to split, by just avoiding and pretending he doesn’t exist. Don’t ever do that. If you want to dump him, go ahead and do it. Put him out of his misery.
Do you get sappy?
It’s quite obvious you’re going to want to change your mind halfway through, because you’re feeling bad about it. But when you do want to break up, go ahead with it and don’t soften up. You may just regret it later. Be diplomatic and understanding, but be firm.
Do you crack up?
A few days after breaking up, and several calls later, you may end up cracking. You may think breaking up was a complete mistake. But that’s just the after-effects that all of us go through. Never crack up if you know what you did was the right thing.
You like criticizing?
Don’t. As much as you’re dying to tell him that having sex with him was like playing the violin with a toothpick, spare him the pain. You don’t want his tears ruining your face dress.
You want to console him?
Don’t ever do that. He would assume that you still love him, and he might just try forcing himself on you. And if you’re in a quiet place, the conversation will end up with both of you hooking right back up. Who can resist cootchie cooing?!
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If you’re not happy, you should get very honest about why (it usually has nothing to do with other people). Men are trained to work at fixing problems, not be a quitter or selfishly negative, and save anything that can be fixed…so it is Women who almost always end the deal. If you think he’s not good enough for you, Yes, Please do the man a favor and break up the relationship. The quality of your life may continue to suck, but at least you’ll improve his.
Its sad how love don’t work out. What happened to the days where people cherished each other and loved each other tenderly? Those days are gone. We could all learn from people from previous generations. People who met, fell in love, and stayed in love. A man knew how to romance a woman and a woman always brought a smile to a man’s face. Now, all people do to each other, is pain one another in the heart. Valentine’s day is coming up. So what? Love don’t mean anything anymore. So why celebrate something that nobody seems to care about? If love were real, then people wouldn’t hurt each other all the time. As far as i’m concerned, valentine’s day belongs to the previous generations. The times where love and friendship go hand-in-hand. Now, mostly everyone cares about is sex. A person’s worthiness of being loved, is determined by sex. Sex always comes first. Gentleness, respect,and tenderness don’t mean anything. How sad. This generation wouldn’t know love, if it had to take a catastrophic event, to make them care. There is no love which is the reason this world is so screwed-up anymore.
You should know if he has a big ole stash o’ porn somewhere that’s taken your place. Not that it will help things, but it will make dumping him easier if he did.
nice article ,, too bad only women decide they are in wrong place with the wrong person ,,,,,thank god im a idiot male ,,,,,,,, feminazi (:{
“Somehow, most women, never complain.”
This sentence is definitely not true.
Michelle, I think you’re wrong. there’s plenty of love in the world, and in a long-term relationship, sex runs a distant second to the caring, love and companionship that you offer each other. Sharing a future, meeting goals and exploring the world together are what really matters.
All the rest are merely distractions.
@Michelle,
There is no such thig as “love”. It is just a Hollywood creation. Naturally humans would never be monogamous, which tends to be one reason for break ups, people get bored.